Embrace the music

first song for choir MM4 this year..

1Malaysia KL Heritage Xplorace 2012

dapat tempat ke 10 dari 250 team.. bagus..

Which song suits my voice??

i in the midst of choosing song for solo audition....."")(mailto:&%5E#$*&@^@%@!*#

Got problems??

18 Problem Solving Questions

By Curt Rosengren

GOT PROBLEMS??

Whatever your path, at some point you're going to come smack up against problems that feel like in impenetrable wall. While there is no magic wand solution to making that wall disappears, asking questions is the next best thing. Asking questions can help you pinpoint where the trouble is, identify creative approaches to solving the problems, and even change your perception of reality so the problem disappears (or at least becomes irrelevant).

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to using questions to solve the problems you encounter. So instead, here are 18 questions to help you design your own approach. You'll probably find some questions more effective than others, depending on the situation.

This isn't a step-by-step list of questions to ask, so scan the list and see which ones jump out at you. Pick one and start there. See what happens. Then pick another one and dig into that. Build on what gives you results and toss what doesn't. Use these questions as a starting point for a self-taught mastery of problem solving.

1. What are the obstacles?

Take inventory of the obstacles getting in your way. Get them out of your head and onto paper so you can start sorting through them. It sounds like a no-brainer, but I'm always amazed at how often people leave their problems in the abstract, flying around inside their brains.

2. What one change could I make that would make the biggest impact? Sometimes one big change can make seemingly impenetrable obstacles suddenly feel more permeable. It can shift things enough that the other contributing factors lose their potency or become irrelevant. Or it can take you far enough down the path toward a solution that you can get a new perspective.

3. Which obstacles can be easily removed?

If there are obstacles you're facing that are easily removed, start there to get some momentum. You might be surprised at how much difference it makes.

4. What needs to happen for this problem to disappear? Look at the mechanics of the problem. Take a look at the factors contributing to the problem, and then explore which ones need to be changed, improved, or eliminated.

5. Where are the sticking points?

Think of getting from where you are to where you want to go as a process flow. First this happens, then that, and then that. Map out a step-by-step ideal world flow of how you could get there. Then look at that flow and identify the sticking points by comparing it with your less-than-ideal world situation. Where are the sticking points?

6. How can I improve this process?

Instead of looking at it from a problem perspective, look at it as a process improvement exercise. How could you improve your process? How could you improve how you approach it? How could you improve the efforts you are making?

7. Am I the problem? How?

No amount of external problem-solving will do the trick if the obstacle is really created by you. Do you have attitudes, habits, beliefs, etc. that are creating this problem?

8. Are there other paths to the end I'm looking for?

Write down the obvious way to get from where you are to where you want to go. Then ignore it. Come up with as many other paths as you can think of for getting there.

9. Can I change any of the variables?

Often when we look at problems, we see them in terms of a finite set of parameters. List all the variables you see (how much time it takes, who is involved, whether to do something yourself or hire someone to do it, etc.) and play with changing them. What effect could that have?

10. Who has done this before?

If someone else has already invented the wheel, don't bang your head bloody trying to create it again. Who else has been up against the problem you're encountering? Can you talk to them? Read about how they approached it?

11. Does this really matter?

This might seem like a funny question to include in a list with a problem solving focus, but the ultimate in problem solving is when the problem instantaneously ceases to exist. Sometimes we get so caught up in making something happen, or doing it a certain way, that we don't realize it is taking more of our energy than solving it would benefit us. If you are only trying to solve the problem "because it's there," consider dropping it and focusing your energy and effort elsewhere.

12. What would I do if I didn't think this were a problem?

Sometimes our perception that a problem exists becomes the problem itself. Try exploring what you would do if you didn't see whatever you're up against as a problem. The example that comes to mind is two people without a degree. One says, "I don't have a degree, so I'm limited in my options." The other says, "I don't have a degree...now how can I start creating more options?"

13. What information do I need? What information am I missing?

Sometimes problems exist because we don't have enough information to solve them. Identifying what information you need and what information you're missing gives you a starting point change that.

14. How would ______ solve this?

Get out of your own story and look at it from someone else's point of view. If there is someone you especially admire, or someone who is well known for solving things like this, ask yourself how they would solve it.

15. How would I solve this if I had to take an opposite-brained approach?

Are you more naturally linear or creative in your approach to things? Whichever it is, spend some time doing the opposite. Look for resources to help you take an approach to problem-solving that is the opposite of your natural tendencies.

16. How many solutions can I come up with?

Don't worry about quality with this one. Go for quantity. Make it a game. You'll probably come up with a whole lot of goofy ideas, but they just might pave the way for some good ones.

17. What new habits could I create that would help me overcome this?

If your goals are going to come to fruition, you are the one who is going to have to be the driving force. Are there any habits that could help make you more effective, reducing friction and limitations in the process?

18. How could ____ relate to my problem?

At the end of my sessions with clients, I used to pull a tarot card and read the explanation in the accompanying book. There was no divination intent to it. Instead, it was accompanied by the question, "Does this relate to your current situation in any way?" Sometimes it didn't, but 75 percent of the time that question yielded valuable insights. The card offered something specific for their minds to bounce off, helping them make random connections and have unexpected insights. You can do that with just about anything, whether it is a tarot card,, your favorite artist's approach to painting, or the traffic on the way to work. It offers a way to get outside your standard set of thoughts and associations.

Questions alone won't solve your problems. You also have to combine them with action and persistent, consistent effort. But the more good questions you ask, the more problem-solving potential you have.

GOOD LUCK!

Are you in love?

19 signs that you're in love

So you’ve met someone new, and you’ve fallen head over hook, line and sinker for them. You can’t finish “hello” before ripping their clothes off. Your cheeks are so pink they’re visible from space.

It must be love! Or is it? If you recognise more than a few of these signs, chances are it’s the real thing – and you may just be in it for the long haul.

1. You chuck out your old relationship souvenirs
For years, you hoarded ticket stubs from concerts and days out with your ex. Then you fall in love, and suddenly all these souvenirs are just tat that’s cluttering up your space. So, if nothing else, falling in love makes you more tidy.

2. Your ex announces their engagement, and you don’t care
What’s more, you fail to understand what you ever saw in them. And as for sleeping with them... what were you thinking?

3. You’re no longer shy around your former crush
You used to be a quivering wreck when your office’s payroll assistant entered the room. These days, you barely notice them.

When you’re in love, your partner becomes infinitely more attractive than any other person on the planet. Yes, even Cheryl Cole.

4. You aren’t put off by physical imperfections
Lust is far more fragile than love. Here’s an example. If your lust-object arrives for a date with a big green crusty lump sticking out of their nose, your attraction will disappear in an instant.

But if you’re falling in love, you won’t be put off. You’ll feel protective. You’ll rub your nose and hope that they mirror you… and hey presto, problem solved. Ain’t love grand?

5. You show them where you grew up
It may seem an odd choice of weekend adventure, but love means wanting to show them where you’re from. “That’s my old school, that’s where I had my paper round, that’s where I puked up my dad’s home-brew…”

6.  You tell them your plans – big and small
Whether it’s babbling about your world-travel dreams or asking them to help make the shopping list, you include your lover in your plans because they’re part of your life.

7. You wonder where “we” should go on holiday
Even if it means compromising your idea of the perfect holiday or putting up with their mum’s brussels sprouts.

8. You’re thrilled by a joint invite to a family wedding
Partly because you’re happy that family and friends treat you two as a unit. And partly because you want your wingman beside you when the boredom sets in at 10pm in the church hall.

9. You show them off
When you’re falling for someone, you want to include them in your social life and show them off to your friends. However…

10. You’re happy doing nothing together
Ultimately it’s not about being a couple on a social stage, but just about being two people together. Just going for a walk together sounds like the perfect afternoon.

11. You join their photography class
You want to know what make your lover tick – and you want them to see that you’re showing an interest.

12. You ring them to moan about work
When they’re the first person you want to talk to about what a class-A berk the boss is today, it’s because you think they’re a keeper. (Your lover, not the boss.)

13. You take their kids out for lunch
If your other half has children from a previous partner, your relationship with the kids is a barometer of your future as a couple. And if you’re in love, you’ll try your hardest to get along with them.

Try not to let it stress you out. If you and the kids can be relaxed in each other’s company, you’re onto a long-term winner.

14. You aren’t afraid to argue
Couples don’t agree all the time. If you’re in lust, you don’t care about standing up for yourself – it’s more trouble than it’s worth.

But when you’re in love, you want to put your point across. Speaking up shows that you’re secure enough to question what your lover says or does.

However…

15. You feel terrible when you argue
You wouldn’t be half as upset about a row with anyone else. Here’s why…

16. You care more about their happiness than your own
You feel bad when your other half isn’t happy, so arguments are a double whammy of emotional trauma.

On the bright side, it shows that you’re really in love. You’re no longer looking after number one all the time. Instead, you want your partner to be OK.

17. You don’t mind saving if you're usually a spend-thrift
Our money habits are deeply entrenched, but love motivates you to make an exception.

For example, if you’ve spent your adult life being unwilling to save up for anything dearer than a haircut, love could suddenly make you want to save a deposit on a flat.

Likewise…

18. You don’t mind splashing out if you're usually frugal
If you’re suddenly willing to splash out on a luxury holiday together, it shows how important they are to you.

But it’s not about changing the real you. If you’re usually more comfortable being a saver, love won’t change that. It just means you’re less rigid about it. Which brings us to…

19. You risk being yourself
Of all the love-signs on this list, this is the big cheese.

When you’re infatuated or in lust with someone, you edit yourself to fit what you think they want. You might dress to suit them, or hide the fact that you don’t have much in common with their friends.

But when you’re in love with someone, you want your other half to know and like the person you really are.

It’s a risk, of course. Certain incompatibilities may come to the fore. But you know that you can’t be happy for long if you’re faking it.

This isn’t an excuse to be stubborn or tactless. “Being yourself” does not mean sticking rigidly to habits, or telling your lover that their CD collection is crap. A bit of flexibility works wonders.

Switching job industry

from secretarial to do PR or beauty industry??

Korean cooking class

today i learn how to make gimbap and kimchi chigae.

interesting

How to save money and get extra...

You can live large on next to nothing! You're young and yearning for the splendid life, yet the cupboard is bare. So sally forth and ferret out some fabulous freebies. Here are 10 ideas to get you started. By M.P. Dunleavey

So money’s a little tight right now. OK, it’s very tight. Not that you’d ever admit it. Scrimping isn’t enough, budgeting won’t cut it and you’re too old to call the parents. (Besides, they already said no.)

No sweat. We’ve all been there and found creative ways to get through. All it takes is a little chutzpah and a handful of brilliant, if slightly unorthodox, ideas. You supply the chutzpah, and we’ll take care of the rest.

Most of this advice is provided courtesy of intrepid souls like my cousin Alicia. One year she made $16,000. I made about three times that, and she did 150% more stuff. And that’s what living large on less is all about: the High Art of Not Spending. And speaking of art …

  Get thee to a gallery. “It’s ALL about gallery openings," says Alicia. "You’re there, you’re fed, you’re buzzed." Excellent point. To get invited to those canapé-laden openings, visit local galleries and put your name on their mailing list. And hey, look at what’s on the walls, will ya?

  Get a job with perks. No, not benefits. You don’t care about that yet. Perks. "If you work at a bar, you get free drinks; if you work at a movie theater, you get free tickets," Alicia notes. Thankfully she didn’t mention pharmacies or liquor stores. We must keep our standards.

  Go through the garbage. “People throw out all kinds of useful things," says my sister-in-law, Deirdre, fondly recalling the days when she and my brother were unemployed in Ireland. Actually, it was more like a year, but whatever. "One time he brought home milk crates, and I nailed them together to make a TV stand," she says. Another time, a neighbor gave them an old, industrial-size window shade. Deirdre cut up the shade to make painting canvases for herself, and then chopped up the rod to make a lamp. (Lamp shade from junk too!)

  Bake bread. You could get suckered into spending $1.29 for a loaf of Wonder Bread, or spend mere pennies to bake a loaf of your own. My friend Matthew, newly graduated and completely cash-free his first summer after college, dug up a recipe he learned in third grade and lived on fresh bread for most of that year. Oh, and beans.

  Get some rest. Can’t afford dinner and a movie? Try the time-honored tradition of staying in bed. Ideally with someone else. In fact, there are several classics you can read on this topic: "Fear of Flying," "The Kama Sutra," "The Monica Lewinsky Story." If your parents ask you what you’ve been doing lately, you can say, "Reading a few classics, Mom." They’ll be so pleased.

  Expose your creative side. Get naked and model for a painting, drawing or photography class. The hourly rate is great, and all you have to do is sit there. You can do that, right?

  Attend wedding receptions. Especially those you haven’t officially been invited to. These are held in large, anonymous banquet rooms of large anonymous hotels like the Holiday Inn on Route 80. Pay attention to the big sign that says, “Kelly and Rocco’s Reception,” because on the buffet line someone is sure to ask, “Bride or groom?”

  Rely on the kindness of strangers -- or anyone. Mooching is an unpleasant term. Think of it as inspiring other people’s spontaneous generosity. If friends suggest grabbing some pizza or shooting some pool, just say you can’t afford it. Someone will offer to buy you a slice or front you a game. In 15 years you can send them a really nice Christmas gift, but meanwhile just use the standard, "Thanks . . . I’ll get the next one." Sure.

  Volunteer, volunteer, volunteer. It’s astounding how many places rely on volunteers, and how many freebies you get when you volunteer. Museums, zoos, botanical gardens, film festivals, art festivals -- pretty much anything with "festival" attached to it -- most performing arts venues, many theaters, they all need a steady supply of the selfless.

  Give the gift of life. This is easier for guys than for women. But if you’re willing to share a little DNA, and be left alone in a room with questionable reading material for a few minutes, you can emerge $50 richer.

A lot of these fall into the category of “don’t try this at home,” but in fact each and every one of these suggestions come from someone who was not only brave enough to try it, but crazy enough to admit they tried it. And soon, you could be one of them.

Alex Wong or Marko Germar

so you think you can dance.

Mera Rang de Basanti Chola

this song give me goosebump.. the story of Bhagat Singh.

Meaning of flowers

I not celebrating Valentine's Day but i dont have objection if my friends do.

Know the meaning of flowers here.

Project Runway, TopChef, CakeBoss

whenever you watch this kind of reality tv show, dont u wish u can be one of them? good fashion designer, or chef or cake decorator..

Singapore oh Singapore

im in singpore from 1feb till 4 Feb. got work with SDSC.. kinda bored, nothing much to do here.